How To Be More Sex Positive around prudes

Know That There Is No One Way To Be Sex Positive


As you explore sex positivity, it's important to know that there is no particular path you have to take. Sex positivity isn’t just about free love, it’s the societal drive to develop further away from an oppressive and antiquated outlook on sex. 

Find New Ways To Value Yourself


Shame comes from the outside in. And although there's no way to become impermeable to what's around you, there are ways to build yourself up. 

While the drive to conform is extremely powerful, it’s crucial to overcome this tendency and embrace one’s true feelings. 

Start Communicating Openly


Talk about what you like and dislike, what you fear, how you feel and any questions you might have. Our culture is simultaneously hyper sexual and sex-negative and sexual messages are therefore highly contradictory. By discussing your concerns, uncertainties, vulnerabilities and desires more openly with trusted friends or partners, you can address some of these contradictions and embrace a life in which sex plays an overwhelmingly positive role. 

Find Allies


Beyond having a confidant or partner to talk to, it's important to find likeminded people who can support you on your journey to sex positivity in general.  

We live in a largely sex-negative environment — one in which gender, age, ability, appearance, social status, income, and a variety of other factors affect our sexual freedoms; many people, however, are sex positive."Look for them. 

Go Online


 If you do your research, chances are, the internet will be a major jumping-off-point for your sex-positive identity. Digital spaces allow young people to collaborate and learn from one another’s lived experiences.

There are also many sites that offer evidence-based information that young people can consume and discuss together and with educators, parents, nurses, etc. ... Increased access to accurate information can lead to more realistic expectations with regards to sex and relationships. 

Explore Your Own Body


Know that enjoying sex doesn't have to involve other people at all. While you're living in an environment that doesn't match with your perspective on sex, feel free to take the time to know yourself first. 

Explore your own body. You have access to so much information about what turns you on and what turns you off and what kinds of sensations your body enjoys. Take the time to explore it! 

Hottest Role Playing Ideas

Cop and criminal



Playing Doctor / Nurse


Meeting a stranger


Sex Worker


Maid / Butler Secret Rendezvous


Pirate and captive


World's Most popular Fetishes

Anal Sex

You don’t need to have an anal fetish to engage in anal sex, but plenty of people of people do specifically get off on butt stuff. Anal play can range from adding a finger in the ass during penetrative vaginal sex to using butt plugs to having anal sex with a penis or a dildo.  

Impact Play

Impact play means spanking, flogging, paddling, and other forms of consensual striking. 

Foot Fetish

A foot fetish involves a desire to worship feet through acts such as massage, kissing, and smelling. 


Many people get aroused by sexy underwear, lingerie becomes a fetish when someone needs it to be present in a sexual scenario in order to fully engage or get off. A common lingerie fetish involves stockings, a fetish that can overlap with a love of feet.  


 Voyeurism — or obtaining sexual pleasure from watching others who are naked or having sex — to be one of the most common fetishes.  

Group Sex

An orgy is when a group of people of all genders have sex, while a gangbang typically refers to one person having sex with more than two members of another gender (while the term has past violent connotations, it's used in the kink community to refer to consensual scenarios). 

Average Penis Size By Country in inches


1. Republic of the Congo - 7.05

2. Democratic Republic of the Congo -  6.823 

3. Ghana -  6.815 

4. Ecuador -  6.736 

5. Colombia -  6.705 

6. Venezuela - 6.705 

7. Cameroon - 6.622 

8.  Lebanon -  6.563 

9. Sudan -  6.500 

10.  Iceland -  6.484 

96. United States of America -  5.079